rant about unwanted attention below the cut

i’ve had several guy friends bitch and whine at me about how they can’t ever get out of the “friendzone”. i’ve had a guy tell me that my strong dislike of harassment (in the form of cat calls, honking, and other “compliments”) was stupid and that he’d enjoy that kind of attention.

as an experiment, i made a semi-falsified okcupid account late friday evening. these are the stats as of tuesday afternoon. in just 4 full days (although really it was more like 2 days since i’ve been busy with school these last couple of days), i got almost 70 messages from guys and none from girls (despite being bisexual and girls checking me out). i never once initiated a conversation myself, all 68 of those guys sought me out.

one guy tried to tell me he loved me after 15 minutes. multiple guys have sent obvious copy-pastes. another guy told me he didn’t even think i’d be interested, but wanted to “say hi anyways”, and one guy got extremely butthurt when i didn’t reply for two days because i was too busy/swamped to get to everyone. 

guys really wanted to meet me, invited me out for dinner, complimented me, and some of them were decent conversationalists. 

unfortunately, many of these guys were ~10 years older than me. they had no business trying to pick up a 19 year old, no matter how “cute” she is. better yet, a 49 year old asked if i’d let him eat me out, as his first message to me. there was no mention of sex on my profile/i never once answered a sex question, yet i got hit up for sex quite a few times, mostly by men significantly older than me – some practically my father’s age.

the creepers, the unwanted sexual attention, and just the sheer flood of desperate males throwing themselves at a pretty face was astounding and horrifying. 

in real life, i’ve been honked at, catcalled, stared at, and been approached by males. this sort of attention is NOT flattering, it makes me feel really, really unsafe.

i’ve had male friends get weirdly clingy on me/start to like me when i thought we were just friends, and somehow i’m the bitch when i don’t feel the same way. 

this attention is not good! it’s not flattering! it’s terrifying and creepy and frankly extremely upsetting! don’t DO this to ANYONE regardless of gender/sexuality! 

thank you